I am Enough.

These powerful 3 words changed my life.

Have you felt like no matter how hard you tried in any given situation whatever you did was not enough?

Have you found yourself feeling as if you were easily replaceable?

I struggled with giving too much of myself to people who took it for granted for too long. I tried so hard over the years for everyone and was always left picking up the pieces when they left. 

And it was never their fault, I was not a victim I had just created experiences to reflect how I felt I deserved to be treated.

Then I started thinking, why do I believe I am not enough?

A belief is like an apple seed in our brains that grows into a tree. Therefore we will always find ourselves in situations that are familiar to that belief until we change it. First you make a belief and then a belief makes you, then the world matches your beliefs.

Somewhere along the way I had learnt the belief that I was not enough and created situations to prove to myself that I was not enough.

Sometimes you have to pull the apple tree out by its roots to really have the life you want.

I started saying and writing"I am enough." I have it written everywhere. I have it set on my phone as a reminder twice a day.

Those 3 little words are so powerful and can really change everything.

I have become more compassionate, more loving and more fearless then I ever imagined.  My life has become easy, fun, exciting and expanded with opportunities. 

I see now that the brain is malleable and changing. We believe what we tell ourselves and our mind can get stuck on certain situations. 

1. Write I am enough everywhere. 

This will challenge your internal deep belief that you need to do more or have more or try harder. This is really important as we don't actually know how deep this belief runs and we need the constant reminder. Could it be this simple? Yes, it really is.

2. Listen to yourself and the language you use 

Start making notes of things you tell yourself and being curious about your own thoughts. Do you want to lose weight yet you tell yourself you hate exercise? Why not tell yourself "You love exercise! You feel so fantastic after working out, your body loves the energy and endorphins exercise brings!" 

This can be applied to any area that you want to improve.

3. Surround yourself with people who believe in themselves

This is key for altering a deep belief, when you see others that have self confidence it becomes easier to change. As you become more confident in yourself you will actually naturally only want to spend time with people who are worthy of you.

4. Get a life coach or some help

If you are really struggling with changing a belief, GET SOME HELP! It really is completely normal to get help from someone who has been there and done it. Perhaps your belief is that You don't deserve help... At any rate when you are on the other side of a challenging or painful belief you will be grateful for any cost that got you there.

I have had lots of help over the years from therapists, life coaches, friends, Hynotherapists, doctors and know it is worth every cent to remove blockages.

5. Do some nice things for yourself

Self Care + Self Respect = Self Esteem.

I bought myself flowers every week, I lit a candle next to my bed every night, I ate nourishing foods and walked around the block daily so that I could show myself that I was the type of person who deserved flowers, candles and good food. I listened to youtube videos on happy positive topics. I said yes to everything that felt good. 

6. Its ok if it takes time

Have patience, these beliefs are deeply ingrained and take time to change. We have reinforced these beliefs over the years so they are really strong. Just know from someone who has been there and done it, it will get easier, it will change and your life will explode with joy, opportunities and love.

If this article resonated with you at all, know I believe in you! 

You got this. 

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